I have decided I am “un-dateable”. I broke up with “The Girl Who’s Name Starts with T” the other night. It really sucked because I really did like her a lot.
I have dated a few really great girls but in the end decided that I was too selfish to start a really serious relationship. Maybe I make up excuses but I always think about my kids too. I feel like it will be really weird for them to have some other woman (besides their mom) here at our house. It is extremely rare that I will bring a girl I am interested in around my kids because of this.
Like I said, maybe it’s because I am too selfish. I really like the fact that I don’t have to be on the phone every night with a girl, or listen to their problems (I have enough of my own). I also really like the fact that I can watch whatever I want to on T.V. and do whatever I want to whenever I want to, (with the exception of having the kids).
I guess I’m just going to keep it me and the kids and stop trying to find something that I don’t even know if I want.
You are a very wise man. God love you! You are doing the best thing for your family…you have good instincts. You now realize that you are your “kid’s dad”. This is the first and foremost identity. And because you are your kid’s dad…you will do everything to take good care of yourself, because you are in it for the long haul..and you are all they have.
Just so you know…my dad apologized to me a couple of years ago for marrying an abusive woman while I was 6 years old. He said if he had to do it all over again..he would have waited until I was raised up before he got involved with anyone. It was a horrible situation.
I stayed with my husband and worked out our marriage…because I didn’t want our kids to grow up in a broken home. They are fine now and so am I.
Believe me…10-15 years from now..you still will be cute as hell, and someone is going to think you are bomb!