I don’t understand how some parents could simply drop off the face of the earth when it comes to their kids. I thought my ex-wife was starting to really good. Mu oldest daughter called her all the time, text messaged her, and went to see her quite a bit. Now for some reason, the ex will not respond to text messages or phone calls.
I feel really bad for my kids. I constantly hear my oldest leaving her mom messages to no avail. No phone call back or anything. She simply dropped off the face of the earth again.
I don’t understand how some parents can do these type of things, especially when you were such a huge part of their life at one point. My ex wife used to help her do her homework, work on school projects, just everything. And now she simply is not there.
A long time ago when I got divorced the first time, my parents actually offered to take custody of my son. To be honest, I was a young dumb kid who had no clue as to how life was. But I never did it. I felt that he is MY son, and I should be the one to take care of him no matter what, no matter what kind of punches life threw me. I could have had my single, no care in the world life back. But I didn’t, I chose the life of being a dad.
I cant imagine going one day without seeing my kids. They mean everything in this world to me and I really wouldn’t trade my life for anything. I have the best kids, best family, and the best of friends.
Since mommy doesn’t call back, my oldest is going through another phase of crying about her mom and wanting to have her family back. I don’t know what to say half of the time, but I assure you that I am ALWAYS there listening, holding, and just comforting my daughter.
I just don’t know what else to do.
I need to tell you that my heart bleeds for your daughter and for you. I think we both know that your ex-wife’s behavior is going to leave scars. I am so sorry for that. I am sorry that you have to pick up the pieces. You can’t do any more than you are doing, listening, holding and comforting. Your daughter will remember. She will love you always. The older she gets, she will realize that you were the loving parent and she will be able to depend on you. She will realize that you and you alone were the parent to give her constant love, attention and security.
You’ve got a lot on your shoulders. I admire you for choosing the role of Dad. It’s so important. Being a single parent has to be one of the hardest roads to travel. That only increases my admiration for you.
I wish all of you the best. I hope in time your daughter comes to realize that all people are flawed, even mothers. I hope your daughter can eventually forgive her mother for her own sake. Carrying around that grief and anger and pain only hurts the person who is feeling those emotions. I know from experience.
I wish I could give your daughter a hug and a bit of comfort. I can’t, but I will be thinking of her and sending her (virtually) my best.
I know how your daughter feels, I felt the same way when I was younger about my biological mother (her absence has denounced her to such a title). I watch my younger brother go through the same thing now, and it breaks my heart.
Hi,
My mom did the same exact thing to me. It was heartbreaking. My dad remarried, and the stepmother was jealous of my close relationship with my dad, and did everything in her power to break it up. Like for instance..she would deal with her children when they would be naughty..but when I was do something wrong..she would tell my Dad when he got in the door…knowing that his anger would hold through the night and she would be able to separate me from the family for that night. By the time I was 14, my dad would scream at me that I was a worthless piece of …. that was just like her mother. It was heartbreaking. So…my advice to you..is to never let your daughter ever think for one minute that you don’t love her. So…I lost my dad, too. Then I married a man with an alcohol problem, which he is dealing with now…and I love him. Now I am 41 and finally healing and realizing that God loves me. I felt so strange my whole life without her…please reassure her that she is a good kid. Because when a mom leaves…you think it was because you weren’t good enough to make her stay…you take it all in as if it were your fault. I was angry about it, and I didn’t do well in school. This hurt has taken me years to get over…but as long as you love her….she will be fine.