Comments on: Dropped off the face of the earth…again. http://www.singledadblogger.com/2009/08/23/dropped-off-the-face-of-the-earth-again/ Who's YOUR daddy!? Mon, 24 May 2010 03:15:41 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jill http://www.singledadblogger.com/2009/08/23/dropped-off-the-face-of-the-earth-again/comment-page-1/#comment-100 Jill Sun, 18 Oct 2009 04:50:59 +0000 http://www.singledadblogger.com/?p=345#comment-100 Hi, My mom did the same exact thing to me. It was heartbreaking. My dad remarried, and the stepmother was jealous of my close relationship with my dad, and did everything in her power to break it up. Like for instance..she would deal with her children when they would be naughty..but when I was do something wrong..she would tell my Dad when he got in the door...knowing that his anger would hold through the night and she would be able to separate me from the family for that night. By the time I was 14, my dad would scream at me that I was a worthless piece of .... that was just like her mother. It was heartbreaking. So...my advice to you..is to never let your daughter ever think for one minute that you don't love her. So...I lost my dad, too. Then I married a man with an alcohol problem, which he is dealing with now...and I love him. Now I am 41 and finally healing and realizing that God loves me. I felt so strange my whole life without her...please reassure her that she is a good kid. Because when a mom leaves...you think it was because you weren't good enough to make her stay...you take it all in as if it were your fault. I was angry about it, and I didn't do well in school. This hurt has taken me years to get over...but as long as you love her....she will be fine. Hi,

My mom did the same exact thing to me. It was heartbreaking. My dad remarried, and the stepmother was jealous of my close relationship with my dad, and did everything in her power to break it up. Like for instance..she would deal with her children when they would be naughty..but when I was do something wrong..she would tell my Dad when he got in the door…knowing that his anger would hold through the night and she would be able to separate me from the family for that night. By the time I was 14, my dad would scream at me that I was a worthless piece of …. that was just like her mother. It was heartbreaking. So…my advice to you..is to never let your daughter ever think for one minute that you don’t love her. So…I lost my dad, too. Then I married a man with an alcohol problem, which he is dealing with now…and I love him. Now I am 41 and finally healing and realizing that God loves me. I felt so strange my whole life without her…please reassure her that she is a good kid. Because when a mom leaves…you think it was because you weren’t good enough to make her stay…you take it all in as if it were your fault. I was angry about it, and I didn’t do well in school. This hurt has taken me years to get over…but as long as you love her….she will be fine.

]]> By: Alexis M. http://www.singledadblogger.com/2009/08/23/dropped-off-the-face-of-the-earth-again/comment-page-1/#comment-74 Alexis M. Fri, 28 Aug 2009 07:35:18 +0000 http://www.singledadblogger.com/?p=345#comment-74 I know how your daughter feels, I felt the same way when I was younger about my biological mother (her absence has denounced her to such a title). I watch my younger brother go through the same thing now, and it breaks my heart. I know how your daughter feels, I felt the same way when I was younger about my biological mother (her absence has denounced her to such a title). I watch my younger brother go through the same thing now, and it breaks my heart.

]]> By: SurprisedMom http://www.singledadblogger.com/2009/08/23/dropped-off-the-face-of-the-earth-again/comment-page-1/#comment-73 SurprisedMom Mon, 24 Aug 2009 07:59:44 +0000 http://www.singledadblogger.com/?p=345#comment-73 I need to tell you that my heart bleeds for your daughter and for you. I think we both know that your ex-wife's behavior is going to leave scars. I am so sorry for that. I am sorry that you have to pick up the pieces. You can't do any more than you are doing, listening, holding and comforting. Your daughter will remember. She will love you always. The older she gets, she will realize that you were the loving parent and she will be able to depend on you. She will realize that you and you alone were the parent to give her constant love, attention and security. You've got a lot on your shoulders. I admire you for choosing the role of Dad. It's so important. Being a single parent has to be one of the hardest roads to travel. That only increases my admiration for you. I wish all of you the best. I hope in time your daughter comes to realize that all people are flawed, even mothers. I hope your daughter can eventually forgive her mother for her own sake. Carrying around that grief and anger and pain only hurts the person who is feeling those emotions. I know from experience. I wish I could give your daughter a hug and a bit of comfort. I can't, but I will be thinking of her and sending her (virtually) my best. I need to tell you that my heart bleeds for your daughter and for you. I think we both know that your ex-wife’s behavior is going to leave scars. I am so sorry for that. I am sorry that you have to pick up the pieces. You can’t do any more than you are doing, listening, holding and comforting. Your daughter will remember. She will love you always. The older she gets, she will realize that you were the loving parent and she will be able to depend on you. She will realize that you and you alone were the parent to give her constant love, attention and security.
You’ve got a lot on your shoulders. I admire you for choosing the role of Dad. It’s so important. Being a single parent has to be one of the hardest roads to travel. That only increases my admiration for you.
I wish all of you the best. I hope in time your daughter comes to realize that all people are flawed, even mothers. I hope your daughter can eventually forgive her mother for her own sake. Carrying around that grief and anger and pain only hurts the person who is feeling those emotions. I know from experience.
I wish I could give your daughter a hug and a bit of comfort. I can’t, but I will be thinking of her and sending her (virtually) my best.

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