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Early Morning Phone Calls

SingleDadBlogger — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 18:07:38 +0000

Why do people feel compelled to call me at the wee morning hours? The night before last, my ex-wife called me at 2:30 a.m. I didn’t answer and my girlfriend was asking why I hadn’t answered the phone. I simply told her I had been through it before. By that I mean, she used to call me early in the mornings while she was drunk and either beg for me back or say she was going to kill herself. I didn’t want to deal with it. But, there was a voicemail and she didn’t talk. It only lasted about 10 seconds and it just sounded like she was driving.

Then this morning, I received another phone call from a girl that I am “kinda” friends with. Years ago she went out with a good friend of mine. They had a kid together. I have no idea why she called me. It was 3:37 a.m. when she called. It kind of sounded like she was on something. So I asked if she was okay and she said she was. That was basically it. I hung up.

Now here is what sucks about the whole thing. My girlfriend spent the night last night as well. So I had to explain to my girlfriend “why” some other girl was calling me and “why” she was calling me so early in the morning. It made me feel very uncomfortable.

I have absolutely nothing to hide from my girlfriend. But I also know how this must have looked. I hope she understands that I would never ever do anything behind her back.

Friggen ex-wife

SingleDadBlogger — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 00:15:40 +0000

Saturday I had my daughter’s birthday party here at my house. My daughter asked her mother if she would come to her party. For some strange reason, the ex said she would be here. I don’t get it, we are DIVORCED! Why would I want you here at my house in the first place.

Now if we got divorced simply because it didn’t work out then okay, I could see her coming over and co-parent and be friends. But, that simply is not the case. This is a woman that made my life a living hell. She cheated on me, stole from me and my children, treated my entire family like absolute shit, and did not give a crap about anything but herself.

Unfortunately, my daughter was really looking forward to her mother being here at her party and that was all she talked about, she was verbally excited. I didn’t want to break my daughter’s heart so I let her come.

The ex stayed at her mother’s house the night before. Because the ex-mother-in-law and I get along, I went to pick her up, which meant I had to pick up the ex-wife as well.

As soon as the ex got in my van I could tell it was going to be a shit day for me. She got in the van and just had an attitude already. I didn’t even speak to her for the 45 minute ride to my house. It was very uncomfortable.

At my house and people start showing up. My parents, sister, and nephews were the first to arrive. I just thought “Oh Shit, here we go”. My family did not even speak a word to her at all. Now that a lot of people are here, she just went outside and sat there like she owned the place.

Than all the sudden it happened. The kids were in the pool and my nephew and daughter were playing. I guess they were pushing each other or something (I didn’t see what happened) all I hear is the ex start yelling at my nephew and my MOM telling the ex to shut up. The ex was being rude to my mother and I saw my mom get up like she was getting ready to charge her like a freaking rhino.

I had to regulate the situation and yelled at the ex and told her to knock it off because this is MY house. Besides, nobody in this world is going to come into my house and treat any part of my family that way.

I was actually really embarrassed because there were some mothers here with their children and this happened right in front of them. These are people that I see every day! Luckily, I guess my sister (who was sitting right by my mom), told my mom to sit down because it was my daughter’s birthday…so thanks sis!

After everybody left, the ex really wanted me to take her home because she had an AA meeting to go to that night. On the way home I explained to my ex that we are divorced and that this will never happen again. If she wants to have a party for the girls, then SHE can give it to them.

Using their Imagination

SingleDadBlogger — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 15:35:37 +0000

Do you remember having an imagination as a child? When I was a kid, we lived in the hills. There were nothing but mountains around us and that gave us the best place to play. My friends and I would play army all day every day. We were even outfitted in all of our army gear. We had camouflage clothing, helmets, play guns, we had it all. The hills provided us with the best places to build our forts and have fake wars with each other.

Lately, I have been noticing the imagination of my kids. Just yesterday my little one was outside playing on the deck. I watched her up by the railing and pretending like she was ordering food and proceeded to eat her fake food.

After that, both of my girls were playing like they were at school. They were sitting in the living room “crisscross apple sauce” is what the older girl said. That’s where you sit Indian style. Then they sat there and raised their hands and were both asking questions to a fake teacher.

It made me really happy to see them using their imaginations. It brought back a lot of memories from when I was a kid. I wish I could still use my imagination like that. Now, I just use my imagination thinking of ways to fix something or how great life would be if my ex wife just up and left us alone. I gotta admit, the thought of that enters my imagination quite a bit.

trying to get out of child support

SingleDadBlogger — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 15:01:38 +0000

Ex-wife number two owes me child support. I went through child support services here in California to get all this taken care of. She is supposed to pay me $433 per month starting on December 2008.

The other day through a series of text messages (she was being a total bitch, maybe I’ll post the text messages soon), she told me that she asked a lawyer and found out that she was not served properly. Thus, as of three weeks ago it will be over turned.

This is an absolute crock of shit. She is the typical person trying to get out of child support and not take care of her financial responsibilities especially pertaining to her children. She really doesn’t care. She will do anything to not have to take responsibility for anything.

Now, I have to get one step ahead of her and contact whoever I have to and get this taken care. Thanks to her this is just one added thing on my plate I have to get done. Like taking care of three kids is not enough. Stay tuned, I’ll let you know what is going on.